Struggling to Be Happy? Here's Why and How to Change It

In this post and video, I’m exploring the profound topic of happiness—why it often seems elusive and what we can do about it.

So, let's dive in.

I thought I'd start by sharing a short excerpt from my book, How Did I Get Here? A Guide to Letting Go of Your Past & Living in Alignment with Your True Self:

"When the Dalai Lama was asked what the purpose of life is, he replied, 'To be happy.'

In early 300 BC, the Greek philosopher Aristotle wrote the Nicomachean Ethics, in which he described his view on the purpose of life. He went on to explain that the highest aim is eudaimonia (happiness).

So, if happiness is a universal desire, why are so many of us unhappy? And even when we do finally find happiness, it doesn't seem to last long; it is very fleeting."

Although happiness is such a vast subject, one that can't be fully explored in such a short space, this might be a good place to start:

My theory is that beneath the unease we experience daily lies a deeper yearning calling to us.

For some, this calling might be louder than for others. Some may not even notice it often; it's there, causing them to question much about life, but it's not loud enough to prompt action.

However, some of us are acutely aware of that constant tugging at our soul.

Genuine happiness is not possible unless we align with that force pulling us in a specific direction.

Let me put this into context.

Most of the time, we live on the surface, distracted by the material world, constantly buying or chasing after things and people we believe will make us happy. Yet, once we get them, there's no real happiness, and if there is, it's short-lived.

We've forgotten how to be happy—that was taken from us when we stepped into the adult world of "just be responsible!"

I can hear many saying,

"Grow up, Anna; what else can we do? We have to pay the bills and be responsible."

And yes, of course, there is a need for that, but at what cost?

Genuine happiness requires us to dig deeper.

As Maslow points out, real happiness depends on living with meaning and purpose, yet we rarely put this at the top of our life ambitions. If we take Maslow's description as an example, it's clear most of us live well below the surface.

So, can we truly be happy while living in a world that constantly tugs at our values and authenticity?

I believe there is a way, and it's not that difficult.

Here are three ways to start being happier today:

1. Make Better Choices About Work, Friendships, and Relationships:

   Know who you are and seek a job that aligns with your core values, or at least keep an eye on the possibility of finding the right job. Be honest in your relationships and let go of those that are not compatible.

2. Avoid Getting Trapped in Over-Consumption:

   Contrary to popular belief, real happiness is not dependent on how much you own or earn. Placing your happiness on these things is dangerous because when they're no longer possible, your happiness goes with them.

3. Be a Lifelong Learner:

   Real happiness is a lifelong pursuit that requires continuous learning, development, and self-knowledge. Only by truly knowing yourself can you be at ease and in harmony with the world.

How can I help you on your journey to a happier life?

You can start by reading my book

or

Talking to me directly about what is holding you back from being truly happy. Let's talk!